Thank you for keeping your children in mind as you’re going through this transition! Unless co-parenting poses a serious threat to you or your children’s well-being; such as in cases of domestic abuse or child abuse, maintaining a healthy relationship with both parents is important for children to develop a healthy sense of self, and maintain a sense of security.

Here are some co-parenting strategies to help you get started: 

1) When it comes to your personal issues with your ex, talk with a trusted friend, therapist, mentor. Taking care of yourself is important!

2) Reach an agreement with your ex regarding visitation, holidays, communication methods, etc. 

*Please do NOT use your children as messengers between you and your ex; as it threatens their sense of security.

3) Aim to co-parent as a team. Create a consistent schedule. If possible, maintain similar rules, bed-time schedules, and discipline methods. 

4) Keep your child in mind during transition. Coming home from mom’s or dad’s can be upsetting. Please in mind that reunion with one parent means separation from the other parent. One of the best ways to help with this transition is to ensure your child doesn’t have to pack and unpack necessary items like toothbrush, pajamas, pillows, etc. Validate your child when he or she opens up to you, and give them space when they need it. 

If you or your child is experiencing difficulty with divorce transition, please reach out for help! Call us at: 843-894-0000